- Oxford Library of Psychology
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- Oxford Library of Psychology
- About The Editor
- Contributors
- Emerging Perspectives on the Study of Social Exclusion
- Evolutionary Perspectives on Interpersonal Acceptance and Rejection
- Ostracism and Stages of Coping
- Driven to Exclude: How Core Social Motives Explain Social Exclusion
- The Multi-Motive Model of Responses to Rejection-Related Experiences
- Social Exclusion of Individuals through Interpersonal Discrimination
- Theory and Research on Social Exclusion in Work Groups
- The Dark Side of Divorce
- The Importance of Feeling Valued: Perceived Regard in Romantic Relationships
- Peer Rejection among Children and Adolescents: Antecedents, Reactions, and Maladaptive Pathways
- Rejection and Aggression: Explaining the Paradox
- How and When Exclusion Motivates Social Reconnection
- Social Rejection Reduces Intelligent Thought and Self-Regulation
- Cortisol Responses to Social Exclusion
- Why Rejection Hurts: The Neuroscience of Social Pain
- Social Pain
- Perceived Social Isolation within Personal and Evolutionary Timescales
- The Social Stigma of Identity- and Status-Based Rejection Sensitivity
- Depression and Suicide: Transactional Relations with Rejection
- Individual Differences in Responses to Social Exclusion: Self-Esteem, Narcissism, and Self-Compassion
- Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder and the Challenges of Social Exclusion
- Attachment Orientations and Reactions to Ostracism in Close Relationships and Groups
- Social Connection and Seeing Human
- Attentional Retraining for Anxiety
- Behavioral Mimicry as an Affiliative Response to Social Exclusion
- Belonging Regulation through the Use of (Para)social Surrogates
- The Birth and Death of Belonging
- Looking Back and Forward: Lessons Learned and Moving Ahead
- Index
Abstract and Keywords
Romantic relationships present people with unparalleled opportunity to fulfill fundamental intimacy goals. However, they also present the risk of experiencing social pain. Recent research has identified perceived regard—how much one feels valued by one’s romantic partner—as a critical moderator that determines when people set aside interpersonal risk in pursuit of connectedness or instead, forego intimacy to protect oneself from the threat of rejection. In the present chapter, we detail how chronic beliefs about perceived regard shape romantic outcomes by influencing relational cognition and self-regulation, particularly when interpersonal risk is salient. We also explore emerging research highlighting the mechanisms underlying these processes. Feeling valued is important to relationship well-being across all interpersonal contexts, but it is particularly critical in determining the longevity and quality of romantic bonds.
Keywords: interpersonal social cognition, perceived regard, romantic relationships, self-esteem
Justin V. Cavallo, Department of Psychology, Wilfrid Laurier University, Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
John G. Holmes, Department of Psychology, University of Waterloo, Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
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- Oxford Library of Psychology
- [UNTITLED]
- Oxford Library of Psychology
- About The Editor
- Contributors
- Emerging Perspectives on the Study of Social Exclusion
- Evolutionary Perspectives on Interpersonal Acceptance and Rejection
- Ostracism and Stages of Coping
- Driven to Exclude: How Core Social Motives Explain Social Exclusion
- The Multi-Motive Model of Responses to Rejection-Related Experiences
- Social Exclusion of Individuals through Interpersonal Discrimination
- Theory and Research on Social Exclusion in Work Groups
- The Dark Side of Divorce
- The Importance of Feeling Valued: Perceived Regard in Romantic Relationships
- Peer Rejection among Children and Adolescents: Antecedents, Reactions, and Maladaptive Pathways
- Rejection and Aggression: Explaining the Paradox
- How and When Exclusion Motivates Social Reconnection
- Social Rejection Reduces Intelligent Thought and Self-Regulation
- Cortisol Responses to Social Exclusion
- Why Rejection Hurts: The Neuroscience of Social Pain
- Social Pain
- Perceived Social Isolation within Personal and Evolutionary Timescales
- The Social Stigma of Identity- and Status-Based Rejection Sensitivity
- Depression and Suicide: Transactional Relations with Rejection
- Individual Differences in Responses to Social Exclusion: Self-Esteem, Narcissism, and Self-Compassion
- Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder and the Challenges of Social Exclusion
- Attachment Orientations and Reactions to Ostracism in Close Relationships and Groups
- Social Connection and Seeing Human
- Attentional Retraining for Anxiety
- Behavioral Mimicry as an Affiliative Response to Social Exclusion
- Belonging Regulation through the Use of (Para)social Surrogates
- The Birth and Death of Belonging
- Looking Back and Forward: Lessons Learned and Moving Ahead
- Index
